How to Get Him to Commit? Some Common Questions and Answers!

Are you worried your boyfriend is showing a lack of commitment? Do you have genuine concerns about your relationship and want to know how to get him to commit? This question & answer session could just provide the answers you need!

Q: My boyfriend and I have lived together for 10 years and have had a great relationship all this time. He knows I want to get married. How to get him to commit?
A: It may be that he has some baggage about marriage. Has he been married before? The reason may be that he is simply not ready, and given it has been 10 years, he may never be ready. If getting married is something that is really important to you, you may need to either make some compromises or get out of the relationship. You should make sure that you talk to him about this before making any rash decisions. Tell him why marriage is so important to you.

Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. He knows I want to get married. How to get him to commit?
A: Just because you have been together for 3 years does not mean that you should get married. Too many people get married simply because it seems like the next logical step in the relationship. This is not a good reason. With the divorce rate so high, you should ask yourself why you want to get married in the first place.

Q: My boyfriend lives in a different country. The only way we live together is if we get married. How to get him to commit?
A: This is a difficult situation. It seems like you may be putting a lot of pressure on him to ask you. How long have you been together? It may be that he is simply not ready. You should take it as a compliment and respect for you that he is not just jumping into this decision and making it all about living together. Marriage is a huge decision, and there should be many other things you are talking about other than living together when making the decision to get married.

Q: I am pregnant with my boyfriend’s baby. We have been together for 5 years and I would like to get married eventually, but he is completely freaked out by the idea. How to get him to commit?
A: By the sounds of your story, it sounds like he is extremely overwhelmed with the pregnancy. It sounds like you have a very solid relationship, so why put a ton more pressure on it? Do you only want to get married because it is the ‘right’ thing to do if you are pregnant? If this is part of your value system, it may not be a part of his values. You may have different opinions on this. Regardless, just because you are pregnant does not mean you should immediately get married. I would suggest taking one thing at a time.

Q: My boyfriend thinks I am overweight and that I need to take better care of myself. I would like to marry him someday but I am scared that I am too fat for him. How to get him to commit to me even if I am fat?
A: If he is waiting for you to be something other than what you are and have been, then it is his mistake that he got into a relationship with you to begin with. Entering a relationship on the basis that you can change someone is not a good premise to start a relationship. You may need to get out of this relationship if he is unhappy with who you are or what you have become. There are a great many guys out there that would be fine dating a fat person, and you certainly are not the only fat person out there.
 
 

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