My Boyfriend Wants a Break: How NOT to Panic!
When the most dreaded words are uttered from his mouth: ‘I need a break’, what should you do? If it’s the case that ‘my boyfriend wants a break’ for you, do not panic! There are several choices you can make at a time like this, and panicking is not a wise one. If your boyfriend wants a break, try to think about why he might want this. Or better yet, what exactly did he say when he told you that he wanted a break? These are questions you need to be asking yourself.
If your boyfriend wants a break, avoid constantly calling, emailing and texting him reminding him of the love you have for him. This will only drive him away. This will tell him you are desperate and that you are ‘needy’. Just be a good friend to him during this time if that is what he wants. Even though it is tempting, do not contact him. Wait for him to contact you.
If your boyfriend wants space, give him the space he needs. Your boyfriend wants a break for a reason. Maybe he just wants a chance to miss you again. Maybe he is trying to reconnect with old friendships that he neglected while he was with you. Whatever the reason, these are all healthy things he is doing, and things you should be doing as well. All healthy relationships require breaks every now and then. If the two of you have agreed not to see other people during this break, you need to trust that he is keeping his word. Has he ever given you any reason to not trust him? If not, you have no reason to assume fowl play.
Consider the circumstances under which he told you he wanted a break. If your boyfriend wanted a break during a fight, it is possible he just over-reacted and regrets telling you this. In this case he will be calling you shortly and apologizing. However, if your boyfriend was perfectly calm when he told you that he wanted a break, he may be re-evaluating the relationship. If this is the case, try not to panic. Do not go to drastic measures to try and win his love back. Getting thinner, wearing more makeup, and hanging out with ‘cool’ people are all things girls may do to get their ex’s attention. Try to avoid these things and just be yourself. He fell in love with you originally, not some version of you.
And lastly, try to keep this in perspective. Your boyfriend wants a break, not a breakup. If he wanted a breakup, he would have told you this. So, take a deep breath. Relax and take a hot bath. Listen to your favorite music. Hang out with friends. Continue to go to work or school. Stay busy and try not to think about losing him, otherwise this could become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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